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Whats On Your Life List??? (If you don’t have one, who’s life are you living?)

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One thing that is very important to me, and is one of the main reasons I’ve made the choice to be an entrepreneur is experiencing new, exciting, fulfilling, interesting, things and places.   That’s what life’s all about right?

So, what happened to me yesterday afternoon was pretty cool… and I want the same thing to happen to you :-)   Read on

My wife and I were doing a little bit of tidying up around the house on the first Sunday we’ve been home in literally 2 months (ya, we travel a lot… sometimes too much).  As I was folding some socks and putting them in my dresser drawer I noticed this crumbled piece of paper I had apparently forgotten about a long time ago.

I opened it up, half expecting it to be some scribble from one of my late-night “idea bursts” but what I found was even better. Way better.

As I opened it up one crumpled edge at a time, a list… 102 items strong – all handwritten… appeared.   Reading through the stuff on that list was inspiring as heck… fun, and got my juices flowing again.  The crazy cool thing was that I had accomplished mostly everything on there… this year has been an amazing year in many aspects.

It was the life list I created earlier this year. I usually do a new one every year to keep it fresh.

I had heard about a “life list” a few years back and I immediately grabbed a hold of that idea and knew I’d always keep a life list of some sort.  So, whats a life list you ask?

Simple.  It’s everything you want to do before you die. I’ve heard it called a bucket list, but I like “life list” better… sounds a bit more positive than “kicking the bucket” lol.

My life list has things all the way from big epic experiences (like skydive over a tropical ocean – which I did earlier this year, fulfilling things like starting a scholarship at my college – which my wife and I did this year, to places I want to go/see like mountain bike in Moab Utah – which I did this year w/ friends)

… to places I want to see (like visiting all 50 states, watch the Masters live, Oktoberfest in Germany, walk the great wall of China, and other places)

… to little fun experiences ( like mastering a surprising cocktail, read 24 books in a year, catch a salmon in Alaska, and help 5 friends or family become free and start their own businesses)

And it’s not just trips and fun stuff… a big hunk of my, currently 102 item life list, is things that truly fulfill me and are a part of what I feel is my purpose.  Things like raising $1,000,000 for an awesome charity (I haven’t hit that yet, but will someday), teach a college class on entrepreneurship, finish a tri-athlon, be published in Entrepreneur Magazine for doing something truly amazing, and a bunch of other stuff.

In the end, when I’m 90 years old and look back at my life and ask the questions (as a mentor of mine posed to me) Did I liveDid I love? And Did I matter?

And I want the unequivocal answer to all 3 questions to be an instant YES.

So, now as always I want you to come away from this article with something you can apply in your own life to “live a legendary life”.   I want you to come up with your own life list this week.

At first it can be a bit intimidating.  It was for me.  But, as you’ll find… once you get rolling things just start to flow and it’ll be inspiring as heck.

Now… lets get rolling.  Grab two blank white pieces of paper, a pencil… sit in a quiet place and block out a solid hour today – and a couple 30 minute time blocks in other days this week.  As you’ll find you’ll get more ideas later this week as you have time to think about it.

What Do You Want To Do Before You Die?

Ask yourself that question.  Too many people live day-to-day and never really put much thought into what they really want to do in life.  Again, this could be places you want to see, things you want to do, experiences, things that make the story of your life what you truly want it to be.

Grab one of the pieces of paper and write down those categories (it helps me to get creative when I’m given restrictions).  Leave some space below each category so you can write stuff below it.  Here’s those categories again:  Places I want to see/go, Things I want to do, Things I want to experience, Things that will fulfill me.

Next, start writing.  Pick one of the categories… usually the “places to see/go” one is the easiest because almost everyone has thought of places in this world they’d love to go.  But, as you’re doing it be really specific.  Rather than just say “New Zealand”. Say, “New Zealand during summer for 2 months” (or whatever your specific desire is). It helps it become more real.

Spend as much time dreaming as you want. Its your life… you might as well put some thought into what the heck you really want to do while you’re here on this earth.  If you get stumped, move to another category… take a break check out a travel/lifestyle magazine/website. Find inspiration.

Now, once you feel you’re done (for now)… grab your 2nd piece of blank paper and with a pencil start writing out the things you had on that first paper.  The cool thing here is… on your actual list you don’t have to keep things in categories if you won’t want. I just have my 102 items written out by hand and numbered.  There’s no specific order to my list… no specific organization… just a brain dump of what I want to do in life.   Once you’re done… awesome.  Keep that list and put it somewhere you’ll see it on a daily basis.

Add to it as you think of new things… and cross things off you accomplish as you do them. Your life list should be an ever-changing list of your life broken up into bite-sized experiences.   As we get older we have new goals and want to experience new things… so spend time each month or each year looking over your life list and adding to it.

Now, here’s where the real magic comes.  The act of writing these things down takes the huge first step in actually doing them.  On my last life list I spontaneously wrote “skydive over a tropical ocean”.   Then, 1 month after I wrote that down, I got an email from a friend (a fellow entrepreneur) who asked if I wanted to join him on a skydive for charity, ya, then within 2 months, I was 18,000 feet up over the ocean in Florida and loving every second of it.  Amazing what happens.

I can’t tell you how amazing the experience of creating a life-list has been for me.  I hope it is the same for you. Don’t put this off as something “I’ll do later”.  Do it tonight.  Don’t put off living. Don’t put off dreaming.  If you don’t write down what you want to do in life (from the big stuff to the small trivial stuff) who’s life are you going to live? Who’s dreams are you going to achieve? Probably not yours.

-Trevor

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The Most Destructive Force To Your Success And Lifestyle Sits In YOUR Home

I was reading a study recently (don’t ask me what study because I can’t remember where I saw it ;-) that talked about how productivity here in the U.S. has gone down in the last 20 years to the lowest points in our country’s history.

By productivity I mean… how much the average worker (or citizen) gets done in actually producing economic growth each day.  In the 50’s our nations productivity was high as heck. People flat got stuff done.

Today, we’re lower than most other large economies in the world.

We “work” more and get less results per person today then we did 60 years ago.

Why?

Well, I’ve got one reason… and it’s something you’re probably all too familiar with.

THE MONSTER IN THE ROOM… THAT YOU INVITE INTO YOUR HOME

I’m going to ask you this question and I want you to give an honest answer.

What would you do if someone came into your home every day and interrupted your thinking time and hypnotized you nightly and turned your mind to mush. He sabotaged 40%-80% of your free time away from your job and left you with nothing to show for it.  He nagged you, told you all of the things wrong with you and this world, and destroyed your family time because he had almost spell-like control over everyone in your house.

I could go on… but what would you do if this person was staying with you?  Would you let them stay forever or kick them out?  I would hope you’re saying “I’d kick them out!”.

Well, if you’re like the average American… you’re actually letting this “person” into your house right now… 100% voluntarily and willingly… and even pay a pretty penny for the “privilege” of having them there.

If you haven’t guessed already… I’m talking about TV.  Yep, that big box that the average American has in their living-room (all 60 inches of LCD HD glory)… in your bedroom… maybe even in your kitchen and kids rooms.

TV’s are a harmless box by themselves.  They just pump out a picture and some sound and keep people entertained.

But, when combined with our human makeup… they’re the most destructive force in your home today to your wealth, health, prosperity, happiness, creativity, and more.

What Is Your TV Costing You Right Now (You’ll Be Surprised)

Now, I’m going to get this out of the way because we have a big ol’ TV on our wall.  We watch some TV… more than I’d like.  So I’m not saying that TV doesn’t have value.  I just want to open your eyes to the destructive power of the TV and how you can double your own productivity and happiness with a few quick steps.

Here’s some stats:

-       The average American watches about 7 hours of TV a day. Lets say you’re part of an elite group and “only” watch 3 hours of TV a day.

-       Lets say you value your own time at $50/hr (which is low, but is the hourly rate you’d have to make to make $100,000/yr working 40 hours a week).

-       Lets say you don’t watch any TV on weekends… just a few hours after work

So, lets do some math now:

-       $50 x 3 hours a day = $150 in your time watching TV each day

-       $150 x 5 days a week = $750 a week in TV time

-       $750 x 52 weeks = $39,000 a year in your time spent watching TV

-       Lets assume you lived this life for 50 years (from 20 – 70) = $1,800,000 in your time watching TV

Now, you can see where I’m going with this.  All of those assumptions were very conservative. If you watch more than 3 hours of TV (most people do) a day… you should increase your numbers. If you want to make more than $100,000 a year… increase your numbers.

But the amazing and eye opening thing here is… looking conservatively… watching only 3 hours of TV 5 days a week… you’re costing yourself over $1.8 million.  And the really scary thing is that if you account for the time… you’re spending over 4 years of your life in front of the TV.  Crazy eh?  I thought so too when I heard these numbers.

Could You Use An Extra $1.8 Million and 4 Additional Years?  Here’s How To Get It

Simple. Do what my wife and I did last year… cancel your cable TV.  Yes, it’s going to hurt at first. Your favorite TV shows will be gone.  You may have to find other things to do every night and morning (more fun things like actually spend quality time with friends and family, work out, work on your business, read, get stuff done around the house, volunteer, a whole bunch of stuff opens up), and your kids may think you’re the weird family.

If being wealthy and living a happy and fulfilled live is weird… then I’ll take weird over “normal” any day of the week (especially since the normal nowadays is broke and tired).

Once we cancelled our cable, things changed BIG TIME in our marriage, energy, my creativity, my business, and every aspect of life. The only thing I lacked was knowing who was voted off on The Bachelor on Monday nights ;-)   Take a risk and regain your life and productivity (not to mention the $100/mo in cable fees)

-Trevor

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The Great Email Experiment – To Kill or Not To Kill?

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So, question for ya… what if you had to live without checking email for 30 days?  I mean… 100% zero email.  Not online. Not on your phone.  You couldn’t check email at all.

What would you do?  Could you even do it with the way things are right now?

185 – That’s a pretty accurate estimate on how many emails I get every day.  And the funny thing is that’s a pretty low number compared to the amount of emails other people I know personally get.

In fact, yesterday I was catching up on emails from the previous couple of days and I was in my gmail account for about 3 hours straight… half of my workday (I don’t usually work a full 8 hours. Sometimes less… sometimes much more if I’m working on something big).  But being in email for me just feels unproductive, uncreative, and there are probably 139 other things I could think of that I’d rather do with my time… including running down main street naked with a siren strapped to my back (lol).

But, most of us treat email like a newborn baby treats milk.  We think we gotta have it otherwise the world will come crashing down around us.

Killing Email – Email Productivity Tips

Before I talk about why I’m considering killing email I want to say that I don’t think email is evil. It’s kinda like TV.  It’s a great technology, it does a lot of good, but it’s also like crack… addictive and can put you into a hypnotic like state if you let it…. and destroy your creativity and results.

Yesterday after I spent 3 hours camped inside my inbox “getting a bunch of stuff done” I felt a sense of accomplishment when my inbox got below “10”. But, the thing that I realized is that while my email was down… I didn’t push forward anything truly worthwhile in my life or business during those 3 hours. It was mainly maintenance and responding to other people trying to control my agenda.  Plus, right after that high of getting to “inbox zero” was gone… I knew I’d have the same issue 3 days from now. A never-ending cycle… it feels kinda like a hamster wheel you know you will never get to the end of.

So, I now realize something has to be done.  And I’m going to experiment w/ killing email (or at least part of it). Here’s why… and how.

7 Reasons To Kill Email

1)    It’s highly unproductive – even though you feel like you’re being productive

2)    It’s a drain and sucks the life outta me being on email longer than 30 mins a day

3)    It’s a great way for other people to assert their own agenda on you

4)    It creates a dependency on “instant feedback” for both you and other people

5)    It’s a darn rabbit hole… never ends so your mind continually has it in the back as something that has to be done (creating a massive open loop)

6)    Turns into a fire-hose of information that just keeps coming, distracting you from what’s really important in business and life.

7)    People got along without email just fine for thousands of years… I’m sure we’ll get along just fine without it too.

When you really think about email for what it is, it’s about as important as having a Facebook account is. Yes, it’s cool and can make communicating with people easier… but that’s half of the probem… too many people can too easily communicate with you whether you want it or not.

How To Live Without Checking Email Yourself

Ok, so on my quest over the next 90 days to eliminate email by 95%… I’ve got some ideas on ways I’ll do that.  But, when I say “kill email”… I’m not saying delete my email accounts and live the life of a technology hermit. I’m just saying that I’m going to cut the time that I spend on email by 95%.

Here’s how:

1) Today I spent 20 minutes unsubscribing from every newsletter (except 2 that I really love and resonate with) and turned off all email notifications from stuff like Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, LinkedIn, etc. Everything.  This right here is 60% of my email. It’s now gone.  Whew!  It feels good already.  I’ll keep doing this over the next month every time I get a newsletter in my inbox.  It’s goneski forever.

2) I’ve set up in my gmail account automatic filters for emails that I still need but that don’t need to be in my inbox. Things like receipts, emails about certain topics that I can have automatically filtered to my assistant or someone else, my mastermind groups group chatter list, etc. I can just check out the folders once a month and the stuff that’s really important will stand out, the other stuff will seem much less important a month after it came in J

3) Over the next 60 days my assistant and I will be working on setting up systems and responses for common questions… systems for setting up phone appointments for important stuff w/ people (so I don’t get stuck in never ending email threads), and she’ll be taking over the day to day monitoring of my email.

4) I’m transitioning everything over to skype calls or quick chats, phone calls w/ appointments, and training people that they can’t get a hold of me quickly by email… so if it’s actually important they can give me a call.

Now, I know this kinda looks like I’m being a diva.  Making people jump through hoops. But the thing is, over the past decade we’ve all given up our own personal freedom. We’ve let technology – which was invented to make our lives easier and happier – overtake us so we rely on them to fill time… rather than to truly make us more productive and happy in life.  Would you agree?

So, should I kill email? My decision is yes. I probably won’t be able to 100% kill email. I’ll still check it a couple times a week… but I’ve made the decision that using email as a crutch to fill time and to fill my agenda has to stop. It’ll open up a ton of time, creativity, more personal interactions with the people who matter. Now, I pose you the question… will you kill email with me?

-Trevor

The Great Email Experiment – To Kill or Not To Kill?

So, question for ya… what if you had to live without checking email for 30 days. I mean… 100% zero email. Not online. Not on your phone. You couldn’t check email at all.

What would you do? Could you even do it with the way things are right now?

185 – That’s a pretty accurate estimate on how many emails I get every day. And the funny thing is that’s a pretty low number compared to the amount of emails other people I know personally get.

In fact, yesterday I was catching up on emails from the previous couple of days and I was in my gmail account for about 3 hours straight… half of my workday (I don’t usually work a full 8 hours. Sometimes less… sometimes much more if I’m working on something big). But being in email for me just feels unproductive, uncreative, and there are probably 139 other things I could think of that I’d rather do with my time… including running down main street naked with a siren strapped to my back (lol).

But, most of us treat email like a newborn baby treats milk. We think we gotta have it otherwise the world will come crashing down around us.

Killing Email

Before I talk about why I’m considering killing email I want to say that I don’t think email is evil. It’s kinda like TV. It’s a great technology, it does a lot of good, but it’s also like crack… addictive and can put you into a hypnotic like state if you let it…. and destroy your creativity and results.

Yesterday after I spent 3 hours camped inside my inbox “getting a bunch of stuff done” I felt a sense of accomplishment when my inbox got below “10”. But, the thing that I realized is that while my email was down… I didn’t push forward anything truly worthwhile in my life or business during those 3 hours. It was mainly maintenance and responding to other people trying to control my agenda. Plus, right after that high of getting to “inbox zero” was gone… I knew I’d have the same issue 3 days from now. A never-ending cycle… it feels kinda like a hamster wheel you know you will never get to the end of.

So, I now realize something has to be done. And I’m going to experiment w/ killing email (or at least part of it). Here’s why… and how.

7 Reasons To Kill Email

1) It’s highly unproductive – even though you feel like you’re being productive

2) It’s a drain and sucks the life outta me being on email longer than 30 mins a day

3) It’s a great way for other people to assert their own agenda on you

4) It creates a dependency on “instant feedback” for both you and other people

5) It’s a darn rabbit hole… never ends so your mind continually has it in the back as something that has to be done (creating a massive open loop)

6) Turns into a fire-hose of information that just keeps coming, distracting you from what’s really important in business and life.

7) People got along without email just fine for thousands of years… I’m sure we’ll get along just fine without it too.

When you really think about email for what it is, it’s about as important as having a Facebook account is. Yes, it’s cool and can make communicating with people easier… but that’s half of the probem… too many people can too easily communicate with you whether you want it or not.

How To Live Without Checking Email Yourself

Ok, so on my quest over the next 90 days to eliminate email by 95%… I’ve got some ideas on ways I’ll do that. But, when I say “kill email”… I’m not saying delete my email accounts and live the life of a technology hermit. I’m just saying that I’m going to cut the time that I spend on email by 95%.

Here’s how:

1) Today I spent 20 minutes unsubscribing from every newsletter (except 2 that I really love and resonate with) and turned off all email notifications from stuff like Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, LinkedIn, etc. Everything. This right here is 60% of my email. It’s now gone. Whew! It feels good already. I’ll keep doing this over the next month every time I get a newsletter in my inbox. It’s goneski forever.

2) I’ve set up in my gmail account automatic filters for emails that I still need but that don’t need to be in my inbox. Things like receipts, emails about certain topics that I can have automatically filtered to my assistant or someone else, my mastermind groups group chatter list, etc. I can just check out the folders once a month and the stuff that’s really important will stand out, the other stuff will seem much less important a month after it came in J

3) Over the next 60 days my assistant and I will be working on setting up systems and responses for common questions… systems for setting up phone appointments for important stuff w/ people (so I don’t get stuck in never ending email threads), and she’ll be taking over the day to day monitoring of my email.

4) I’m transitioning everything over to skype calls or quick chats, phone calls w/ appointments, and training people that they can’t get a hold of me quickly by email… so if it’s actually important they can give me a call.

Now, I know this kinda looks like I’m being a diva. Making people jump through hoops. But the thing is, over the past decade we’ve all given up our own personal freedom. We’ve let technology – which was invented to make our lives easier and happier – overtake us so we rely on them to fill time… rather than to truly make us more productive and happy in life. Would you agree?

Should I Kill Email?

So, should I kill email? My decision is yes. I probably won’t be able to 100% kill email. I’ll still check it a couple times a week… but I’ve made the decision that using email as a crutch to fill time and to fill my agenda has to stop. It’ll open up a ton of time, creativity, more personal interactions with the people who matter. Now, I pose you the question… will you kill email with me?

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Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying – Will You Regret These?

McKinley and I on the beach
McKinley And I Checking Out The Beach

This past weekend my wife, our 17 month old daughter, and I were on the Oregon beach (Florence, Oregon... awesome spot 90 mins from our house) for a little family weekend vacation.  There’s something about the beach (even our cold Oregon water :-) that just puts everything in perspective for me.

All weekend our little one was just drawn to our balcony overlooking the ocean.  Over and over she kept wanting us to go outside with her… and over and over again she lit up with happiness and pure excitement the second the ocean breeze hit her fair little hair.

But, one thing all weekend hit me like a ton of bricks and really put things into massive perspective for me (I get these perspective and purpose shifts a few times a year).  Kinley (that’s my nickname for her) didn’t want to go to sleep.  It was about 9pm… a bit past her normal bed time… and she wouldn’t calm down.  She wouldn’t hang out with us on the bed while we were reading, she wouldn’t play with her toys, she wouldn’t even think about going to bed. She kept pointing to the balcony door… toward the now chilly but insanely peaceful ocean outside.

So, Kinley and I grabbed a blanket… I wrapped her up in it… and we headed outside to hang out and just soak in the moment.  During that 35 minutes out there… Kinley was quiet… wrapped up in a blanket on my chest… and just looked back and forth between the ocean, the fully beaming moon, and up at me with her big blue eyes smiling.  I couldn’t help but be in the moment and really be struck with what life is truly all about.

When you strip away all of the material things and everything else we mark as “important” in our everyday lives… it all becomes trivial compared to what really matters in our lives.

That night and the next day (McKinley woke up early and wanted to go outside to watch the sunrise too… so we did, it was just as magical) I couldn’t help but think about how everything I do today… no matter if I feel it’s “productive” or not toward reaching my business goals… is a day I can’t relive twice.  And, every day behind us is one day less that we have in front of us to truly live the lives that we want to live.  That’s a powerful thing when you really think about it. When you really think about our mortality… that no matter how hard we try to stop it… or how hard we try to forget it… we’re not going to be forever and there will be a time in our lives where we’ll be faced with the moment when we have to look back at our lives and really ask “Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?” (as a mentor of mine always says).

Now, I’m not bringing up any of this to make you feel bad about what you’ve done (or not done) with your life up to this point.  In fact, just the opposite… I hope that what you’re about to read will actually help you live a much more full, fulfilling, rewarding, loving, fun, successful, and prosperous life from here on out.

The Top 5 Regrets of The Dying –

A couple weeks back a friend of mine forwarded me an article called “The Top 5 Regrets of The Dying“. I highly suggest you go read it for yourself after you put down this issue of SI Insider.  The article was titled “The Top 5 Regrets of The Dying”… and it was written by a gal who was a healthcare person (sorry for the non-technial title, lol) who cared for people through the last 3 to 12 weeks of their lives.  And, through those conversations some amazing insights were seen… and we’ll now pass them along to you.

As you’re reading through these, visualize for yourself… what do you want to see when you look back at your life when your in your final days?  What feeling do you want to feel?  What stories do you want to tell? What legacy do you want to live?  That’s when it gets really powerful.

Alrighty… lets dive in one by one…

1) “I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expect of me”

2) “I wish I didn’t work so hard”

3) “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings”

4) “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends”

5) “I wish that I had let myself be happier”

Read the whole article here: http://www.rense.com/general95/regrets.htm

It’ll give you new perspective on life in this new year.

Bronnie (the author) sums the article up better than I ever could…

“When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind.  How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice.  It is YOUR life.  Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.”

So, when are you going to decide to live fully?  When are you going to decide to “play full out” in life and give your goals everything you’ve got?  No better time than now… the start of a new year.  Hit me w/ your stories and make this month an epic month to remember by taking massive action and choosing to truly live and go after what you want in life.

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The One About Work-Life Balance

Business should be fun… it shouldn’t be life.  This video re-reminded me why I became an entrepreneur in the first place… freedom of time.

Its sometimes easy to forget this and get caught up in “work work work”… but in the end its about the small things… not the money you’ve got in the bank.

How do you balance your work and life?  I’d love to hear it!!

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Starting from scratch…

You know those days when something terrible happens but in the end it starts to be kinda a good thing?

Well…. that happened this week.

Here’s the story…

On Monday I was fiddling around in my FTP client (which I should leave up to my web guys)… and somehow deleted the entire directory that my personal blog is in.

Yep, sucks. More…

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